The Caribbean community has lost an unrealized fashion icon. Dexter “3D” Pottinger was a former model turned stylist, designer and creative consultant for many Caribbean entertainers and personalities. Well known for his amazing style, warm heart, and hard work ethic. Dexter was also an activist for the JFLAG organization. Many of his friends are mourning his loss and celebrating his talent.
5 days ago we spoke.. me stressing to get my daughters birthday things and you giving me people’s number to call to try and get it in. That’s who you were…are.. to me to many of us. This man has loved a treated a lot of women better than many men I know. tears are streaming down my face.. you who sat on the floor of a sail boat while other men took all the available seats while I stood..and you sat on the floor and gave me your lap and say sis..come see your seat here. me or Tifa or anyone would call you and say we need a video tomorrow and you would get it done. You do not deserve this my friend. If only I knew.. if only I knew I would have come see you and tell you how much I love you and appreciate all you’ve been to me. People judge people and have no idea. The kind, caring, protective, wonderful soul that you were. And people will see.. this wicked person will see how much friend you have…and they will be brought to justice. #sadday #dexter3dp
My dear brother-friend. 80 years old, grey and fabulous – that was the plan. Potluck this weekend, that was the plan. New York in spring, that was the plan. I don’t have the words to explain this emotion. This grave feeling of loss and helplessness. My world has stopped. My world has stopped and I don’t know how I will ever find the light in losing you. You opened your home, heart and beautiful creative mind to me 8 years ago and never closed it. There was never a time you said no to me. You support and celebrated me always. You nurtured our friendship to a point of absolute and deep connection. There was never a time you made me feel uncomfortable about being my truest self, you inspired that honesty in everyone around you. Yes, you were the multidimensional king of style and regalia but you had a heart so big and a mind so beautiful and I’m so fucking glad and privileged to have experienced you in that vein. Here where I sit right now I promise you this, I will never forget you. I will celebrate your life and our friendship always. I love you more than I’ve ever said but I know you know, my brother my friend.
When you argue with someone you love. Let it go… Our last conversation was so heated, never in our years did we argue or fuss. So when that day happened I couldn’t let it go, couldn’t let those words said out of anger go. Now your gone. Now I want to say sorry to you for being so stubborn and can’t. I knew those words meant nothing, just a moment. But I wouldn’t let it go. Now you’re gone. Now an argument that means so little will forever be one of the worst moments in my memory. I love you my friend… I hope you know that. Beyond the fact that my every look on every runway, stage I stood on, for so many years was all designed, inspired and made fierce by you, you helped me through so many things that no one else could. Every minute that toughness is melting, this can’t be real
Dexter was murdered in his home (investigation still pending) he leaves behind a legacy that will never be forgotten.